Talking about sex for children is one of the arduous and critical things, especially in our Arab world.Mostly, the topic is completely ignored and evaded the answer to their questions, answering lies, or forbidding the child to repeat these questions, which increases his curiosity.
The necessity of the current era and with the tremendous technological progress and the ease of obtaining any information and the availability of smartphones and devices in the hands of most children, talking about sex has become a necessity to protect children from wrong information and behavioral deviation and also from sexual harassment, and the conversation must be appropriate for each age stage in a simple scientific wayIt is easy to absorb.Experts advise the necessity of talking honestly and with sufficient information and not brief on the subject that the child asks about and parents can start asking (Where did you hear that?.Toddler can be discussed with the child from the middle childhood (Toddler) about 3 years, and the start of mentioning the names of the private body members and not necessarily adherence to the anatomical names accepted, but it is dealt with like the rest of the regular organs such as the ankle or arm according to the cultural level of the family.In the age from the second to the fifth, the children are curious about the body, and most of them tend to touch the genitals to identify their bodies.This is completely normal in this age group, and parents should not feel disturbed by that or reprimand the child and make him feel shy. On the contrary, it can be the beginning of talking about the privacy of these organs and not allowing them to be touched by anyone else or accepting their touching to anyone else, no matter how muchHe was close to the child and whatever temptation or threat.The mother must confirm that the touch in general can be acceptable (ApproPRIATE TOUCH), such as Rabat on the shoulder or shaking hands so that the child does not get harassment from harassment.But touching these members is completely unacceptable.From the age of 6 to 8 years, it is possible to talk in a nutshell about the famous question about how children are born, by answering scientifically about the necessity of uniting the egg coming from the mother’s body with sperm coming from the father’s body.In the event that parents feel embarrassed to mention details, the conversation can be postponed to a later time by using phrases such as: “It will be more evident in the case of studying biology in the coming years.”.The most important advice that parents must adhere to is not lying or describing the child by not refining or touching on things that should not be talked about.
Monitoring behavior shall be for the parents to set strict rules for dealing with the Internet and confirming not to exchange any images with strangers or accept their friendship and not enter sites that are unsafe or known to the parents.In the event that advertisements appear pornographic clips by chance, we must talk about the privacy of the body and confirm the non -acceptance of these behaviors socially and religiously.At this age, it is possible to talk about harassment in a more detailed way and warning about it, and in the event that the child feels distress from the conversation, it can be completed at a later time.And from the age of nine to twelve, a scientific book can be used to talk about sex in a more detailed way because it coincides with puberty, especially in girls..Mostly, the emergence of the breast is the first sign of adulthood and followed by the beginning of the menstrual cycle, and therefore the mother must talk about the pain accompanying them and also explaining the changes that will appear in the girl's body as a result of hormones and preparing them psychologically to accept these changes so that she does not feel shy or guilty of her body.The girl, especially in religious societies, can feel guilty of turning her body from a girl to a teenager.As for the boys, the talk about the beginning of the feeling of erection and the assertion is that this is normal, the changes that occur in the reproductive system, the growth of the testes, and the appearance of pubic hair.Mostly, puberty will be late for males, but it can occur from the age of ten at times.It is important to realize emotional and societal pressures on children in adulthood and adolescence, especially with the presence of modern technology and the ease of exposure to any visible and audio materials through the Internet and it should be confirmed that the feeling of sexual desire at this time is "completely normal" so that the teenager does not feel guilty of just desire, but it is doneAdolescents advised to exercise, engage in various activities, and adhere to religious and societal values so that those desires can be satisfied to marry in a timely manner..It is preferable for parents to talk about their personal experience with the children, which makes them feel comfortable and makes them ask about everything that is going on in their minds, and also children can easily talk about health problems related to the reproductive system, whether fungal infections in the pubic area of boys and girls or birth defects in the form of private organs, whereMost teenagers are shy about talking about these matters.Whenever there are open dialogue channels with parents, this is a protection for children at the psychological and physical level as well and to protect them from misleading and false information spread on the Internet.
* Pediatrics Consultant
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